Calling all people-pleasers!

Calling all people-pleasers! Let’s look at our options again:

1. Keep saying “Yes” to everyone even when you don’t want to so you can manage everyone’s perception of you. You’ll keep feeling resentful, overwhelmed, burnt out, and tempted to ghost, deceive, or leave. You’ll never feel completely worthy of love or comfortable in your own skin and you’ll always feel deprived in some way, but you’ll likely cover up that feeling with some sort of distraction/addiction. And what you get in return is the perception of closeness, acceptance, and belonging with the people in your life. 

   
   

2. Remind yourself that saying “No” to one thing means saying “Yes” to something else. You start saying “No” more when you don’t want to share your time and energy, and at the same time you practice saying “Yes” to honoring your needs. By prioritizing your wellbeing, you are able to show up with more energy, presence, compassion, and authenticity with the people in your life. 

   
   

   As you start saying “No” more, you may have to let go of some relationships if they are not able to respect your needs and work through any triggered insecurities with you. That will feel hard and scary. And saying “No” to the relationships that no longer serve you, you say “Yes” to opening yourself up to new people who will love and accept you as you are, needs and all. “Phew, what a relief,” you will say when you find yourself surrounded by people you can be your completely weird authentic self with.

   
   

   Which option will you choose today? And tomorrow? If you want to start choosing the second option and think you'd benefit from some support and challenge, schedule a free consultation with me so we can find out if we're a good fit to work together.

   
   

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I know what the journey is like, going from the first option to the second option. I let go of 4 friendships in the span of 3 years. And I’m so much happier with the quality of relationships I have today, especially the relationship with myself. And my kittens :)

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